Ego Checks, Five Questions to Ask Before Every Trade

[Fairman]

Ego Checks, Five Questions to Ask Before Every Trade

Ego sneaks into trading in quiet ways: the need to be right, to win back a loss, to impress others, or to prove a point. A few simple questions before each trade can help you catch it.

Question 1: Am I taking this trade because it meets my criteria, or because I want to feel something?
Boredom, excitement, or the need to prove oneself aren't valid reasons.

Question 2: Would I take this trade if nobody would ever know the result?
If you're trading for an audience, your motivation may be off.

Question 3: Can I accept the stop loss without anger?
If the thought of being wrong makes you tense, reduce size or reconsider.

Question 4: Am I trying to recover a previous loss?
If yes, stop. Each trade must stand alone.

Question 5: If this setup appeared on someone else's chart, would I call it valid?
Detachment helps you see clearly.

How to use them:

- Print them next to your checklist
- Answer in writing for a few weeks
- Note when answers reveal emotional drivers
- Skip the trade if any answer is concerning

Over time, these questions become a habit of self-awareness.

You can't remove ego entirely, but you can notice it before it makes the decision.

A trader who sees their own motives clearly has an advantage over one who doesn't.

[Fairman]

Of the five, the one I fail most often is whether I'd take this trade if I hadn't just lost. Honestly, a lot of my bad trades only existed because of the trade before them. Asking it out loud before clicking helps more than I'd like to admit. The journal backs this up. When I marked which trades came within thirty minutes of a loss, their results were clearly worse than the rest. That's why I now have a short break rule after every losing trade. Ten or fifteen minutes away, then come back and go through the checklist from the top. If the setup is still there and valid, fine. Usually it isn't.

[Fairman]

If I could add a sixth question it'd be am I fine if this one loses? If the honest answer is no, either the size is too big or I'm taking it for the wrong reason. It's a quick gut check and it's caught me more than once. Often the no comes after a losing day, when this trade feels like it needs to win to fix things. Or it comes when I've told someone about the idea and don't want to be wrong. Either way the trade carries extra weight. If I can't honestly say a loss is acceptable, I skip it or halve the size.